Happiness

Dealing with Agnes

Sep 10, 2018 by Luann Robinson Hull
Dear Friends,

These are interesting times—no doubt about it… lots of drama and darkness in high places, and it’s so easy to get all swept up.  Whether it’s Rachel Maddow, Sean Hannity, Blitzer or Colbert, discussions in the media are often about what went wrong on any given day and who is to blame. Much less fashionable are talking points on what actually might work to support the greater good, regardless of political persuasion. And speaking of what might work to support the greater good, I’ve been thinking about that topic for a while now. I even wrote a book about starting a new love story on planet earth. A pretty lofty goal, I know. But, even so, what’s stopping us?

Using Our Relationships as a Template for Spiritual Practice

Using Our Relationships as a Template for Spiritual Practice
Jul 22, 2017 by Luann Robinson Hull
Excerpts from Self-Belonging to be published around Valentine’s day 2018 (stay tuned to receive your advance copy) and Happily Ever After…Right Now. 

The late Scott Peck, author of The Road Less Traveled, defines true love as this: “The desire to contribute to another’s spiritual growth.” Peck’s definition says nothing about finding someone to complete you or make you happy (or vice versa). So whether or not the relationship is sustainable, if you decide to use it as a spiritual practice, you can choose to grow in the presence of another (while contributing to his/her growth) without a need or desire to change him/her so that you can be happy and comfortable. Instead, you work on being present and available for...

Thrive

Thrive
Oct 31, 2014 by Luann Robinson Hull
Maximize Your Happiness Potential ...The desire for happiness is essential to man. It is the motivator of all our acts. The most venerable, clearly understood, enlightened, and reliable constant in the world is not only that we want to be happy, but that we want only to be so." - Matthieu Ricard

There is an endless supply of resources on how to follow the yellow brick road to happiness. And in recent years, the scientific community has jumped on board fortifying us with impressive data providing empirical evidence to show that we as a species have been hardwired to operate from a foundation of happiness and well-being (Happily Ever After...Right Now, prologue xxx). All we have to do to create that possibility...

Grateful for You

Grateful for You
Nov 25, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
As we approach the Thanksgiving Holiday, I wanted to let you know of my feelings of gratitude for all of you. I so appreciate the many comments and responses to our gems and cannot tell you how inspiring each and every one of you is in my life.

One of you wrote this to me after my last gem:  “I am deeply thankful that neuroscience now shows us the positive brain evidence, that supports choice versus fight or flight and to nurture self is the key to our new evolution as human BEINGS.” I loved this woman’s insights reminding me that many of you “out there,” are making note, like those of us on the Happily team, that we have a plethora of choices on...

Taking Back Our Emotional Well Being

Taking Back Our Emotional Well Being
Aug 13, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
Last week we continued our discussion on “the power of emotions over happiness” and shared insights from cutting edge scientists, who are merging science and spirituality. Today I’d like to discuss how our conditioning influences our emotions and provide a simple technique on how to begin to make permanent changes in patterns of behavior that cause challenge.

Among those participating in breakthrough studies on the brain (merging science and spirituality), is Dr. Richard Davidson, Professor of Psychology and Psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin. “Dr. Davidson has unearthed some significant findings regarding how the emotion of happiness can be tracked in the brain. Davidson collaborated with His Holiness the Dalia Lama to study monks, who are experienced practitioners in meditation, having...

The Power of Emotions Over Happiness

Jul 28, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
The July 15, 2013 issue of Time Magazine introduced a series of articles on “happiness,” and emphasized a point, which I made in my recent Huffington Post article (excerpt below) : “Being distracted (by emotional charges, thoughts, etc.) blunts responses in the brain (Time,  pp. 30).” That's a pretty radical statement! Your thoughts and emotional charges will blunt responses in the brain? Yes, they will.

“Here is a key point that I have learned from devoting much of my professional life to studying the effects of human emotions. The raw, impulsive ones, like fear, excessive worry, and anger will absolutely hi-jack happiness and well being—every single time. And, once these emotions take hold, they can have a fierce grip. So, if we are going to...

It's High Time to Reprogram Our Brains

It's High Time to Reprogram Our Brains
Jul 07, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
Following up on my last article "Soul Sister (or Brother)" -- In order to succeed in our quest to tune into our own heart and soul and loving ourselves, we have to be committed.

We must be vigilant around any negative thoughts that are self directed, and turn these thoughts into loving kindness. Notice how deeply conditioned negativity is. Here is a simple example. Suppose you are in school and you just have done poorly on a test (by your standards). What is your first inclination? Is it to tell yourself how wonderful you are for even trying to do your best on the test (compassion)? Is it to find all of the ways that you have been successful in this...

Soul Sister (or Brother)

Soul Sister (or Brother)
Jul 01, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
If we really want to experience true intimacy with a partner, then we have to be willing to tune into our very own heart and soul. What is the secret to finding happiness, the right partner, the right career, enough money, better looks, more energy and the greater health? You must begin by making a commitment to loving yourself. The soul sister/brother that lives in your essence will never leave or forsake you. Marry him/her first (or marry "him/her" now if you are already "actually" married). Go and buy yourself a simple little eternity ring. Slip it on your finger and make a personal pledge to begin (or continue) learning how to provide for yourself absolutely everything that you think (or thought) you would...

Celebrating Summer!

Celebrating Summer!
Jun 24, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
Our alpine ice-land is finally beginning to melt after a pretty persistent winter (see the snowy peaks below).

And in the spirit of celebrating the season, I am offering the e-book version of Happily Ever After...Right Now at a special price for the summer months.

Here is what Deb Scott, host of The Best People We Know radio show said about Happily:  A New Standard for Every Woman! Required Reading! March 7, 2013 "... I wish I had this book 20 years ago. Don't wait - get it - read it - give it - as a gift to yourself or anyone you love. I think this would be a fabulous book club read as well. A new classic. – Deb Scott I invite you to take...

Love Lamp

Love Lamp
Jun 17, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
Realize that you have an inexhaustible inner light that glows even in your darkest moments. This light is eternal. It can never be extinguished. And the only way for you to actually experience its full, radiant brilliance is to embrace all of those attributes in yourself that you love, and then accept the qualities that you would rather not acknowledge. How is this possible? By opening our hearts and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, over and over again, eventually, what you will come to realize, as you proceed with such a practice, is that all of your suffering is actually just a result of your perceptions, having nothing...

You Deserve Excellence

You Deserve Excellence
Jun 08, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
If there is even a tiny part of you that can start to believe, and then actually begin to know that you deserve excellence across every area of your life, the heart voice (that we spoke of last week) will become more and more audible. Remember: You were born to be loved, appreciated, and celebrated. And as you can continue to love, appreciate, and celebrate yourself (regardless of your perceived mistakes), so then can others see you in your state of grandeur. No matter how your personality may have taken form, you are still part of the royal bloodline that launched us all on this mysterious, earthly adventure. You have sprouted from the Divine seed that is the Source of everything -- the Heavens, the Earth,...

Listen to Your Heart-Voice

Listen to Your Heart-Voice
Jun 03, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
Many of you have been on the pilgrimage toward happiness and health for a while. Time and again, you have felt the ecstasy after making measurable progress followed by the agony when you slipped back into old behavioral patterns. You have been connected to the sense of freedom and peace that you've so desperately wanted to sustain, only to watch that state of bliss evade and elude you yet another time. You have discovered certain things that work; let go of things that don't; stuck to some stuff for a while; slacked off; gone back to old patterns; started new ones; picked up the latest book; gone to another workshop; hired therapists, healers, coaches, spiritual mentors, doctors and others, all...

Be Your Own Fairy Godmother

Be Your Own Fairy Godmother
May 04, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
You don't need to wait for a fairy godmother to bestow surprising and wonderful gifts on you. Instead, become one yourself. How? Show up. Bring balance to the masculine and feminine aspects of your nature. Have faith and charity of heart. Follow your insights. Bring forward your passions. Become that which you seek from another. Emanate love and happiness from the core of your being. Herein lies the basic view from which all successful relationships can develop: I do not need you, but rather I choose you, so that I can contribute to your growth, and you to mine. From this lens comes the most stunning opportunity for magical Majesty to unfold in your world. You will continue to discover that the Universe loves...

A New Relationship Paradigm

A New Relationship Paradigm
Apr 30, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
In a relationship model where happiness (not to be confused with immediate gratification or pleasure) is the primary value, the Prince could be seen as a gift that Cinderella had not expected. Had he not shown up, she would have gone on to live her life contentedly. (Naturally, the same would be true for the Prince.) He was a partner with whom she could experience an even grander version of herself. Their combined love and devotion would provide a new opportunity for growth, individually as well as a couple. They would come to know that their relationship was just one of a multitude of choices for developing their personal and collective talents and treasures.



Cinderella and Prince Charming would have a chance...

Catch Yourself Being Queenly (or Kingly)

Apr 22, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
Recall the moments when you've stepped fully into your Magnificence. It may have been the first time you addressed your parents from a powerful place as an adult, or when you performed beyond your expectations in a leadership role. Maybe it was in attaining some cherished goal or winning an award. Perhaps you are becoming more authentic in your relationships, feeling comfortable identifying and expressing your truth. If you are willing, capture your victories in writing and read them often. What are your most Magnificent qualities?

Have you ever gone beyond your comfort zone in pursuit of your passions?

What goals have you accomplished?

In what ways do you deserve praise?

What is it about you that is strikingly grand or impressive -- exceptionally fine? Use this process as an...

Have a Little Tenderness

Have a Little Tenderness
Apr 07, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
If you choose to have a little tenderness toward yourself, or self-love, it can be the Launch Pad to happiness in life and in love.

HAVE A LITTLE TENDERNESS WITH SELF-LOVE: THE LAUNCH PAD The journey of loving and being loved requires making a lifelong commitment to self-love and self-respect. Admit to yourself that you have made mistakes, celebrate your willingness to learn from these errors, and honor your desire to discover and develop your dreams. Be as tender, patient, compassionate, and kind to yourself as you would be to an aging, beloved elder or a tiny, helpless newborn. Learn to love who you are without exceptions. Regard your mistakes as opportunities (I know it sounds cliched, but it really is the...

Peace Is the Way

Peace Is the Way
Mar 31, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
The way to peace is to notice that peace is the way (Chopra, 2005). And this way to peace is quite simple, although it can seem otherwise. You do not have to make the experience of accessing peace difficult or tedious. Your consciousness is already ripe for a shift to take place in you -- one where (when complete) you will always be operating from this peace of yours, which has heretofore seemed so cleverly to evade you. How do I know about this ripened state that is unfolding in you? Because you would not be attracted to this material if you weren't ready for change.

Most of us are weary of being chained to the pain and pleasure cycle. Of course we believe...

Watch for Familiar Patterns

Watch for Familiar Patterns
Jan 21, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
Continuing in our series,“New Year, New View, New Perspective,” here is Step 2, which is “Watch For Familiar Patterns.” We are working toward “repositioning” or changing the messages about relationships in our minds (our conditioning).  I believe this week’s step is crucial in developing a fresh, new perspective on intimacy and how we relate to our partners.

If what's played out between you and your partner feels familiar, it probably is. Be vigilant. It is critical that you notice the behavioral patterns showing up here that haven't worked for you before, so that you can clearly see what you want to change in yourself. We will cover the topic of “As Without, So Within,” next week, and how to begin to make...

New Year: New View, New Perspective

New Year: New View, New Perspective
Jan 04, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
To launch us into a healthy New Year, I'd like to begin Level II of that series, titled: "New Year: New View, New Perspective" Before we jump in let me briefly share what was covered in Level I of the series.  Here are the links with brief summaries of those posts for your review (feel free to skip down to the new post if you remember this):

Those Things That Trigger You Are a Gift

By facing ourselves and beginning to take a look at what is happening when a partner’s behavior triggers a certain emotion within us, we can start to uncover all of our inner treasures. Ultimately what we are attempting to do is to end needless suffering in our lives....

The Queen's Jewels

The Queen's Jewels
Dec 10, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
Useful Gems for Reprogramming Ourselves as Women Colorful gems. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

Last week I shared an excerpt from my book, "Happily Ever After Right Now" on reprogramming ourselves, and how the only way we can discover true happiness is to be thorough in our investigation of self.  Below are a few gems (or jewels), which can serve as cues on how to take the inner journey.

Whether dormant and disguised or fully operative in their most optimal brilliance, the polishing of these gemstones is what will awaken us to the true callings of the heart. It is no coincidence that each number below represents a chapter title of my book: 1. Entitlement: Let Go of the Longing for the...