Emotional Triggers

Angels and Grace

Nov 21, 2018 by Luann Robinson Hull
Yesterday I started out having what I judged to be a ‘bad day.’ I’d had dental surgery the day before and upon arising, it felt like things were going south in my mouth. Unable to ignore the repeated throbbing in my jaw, I made an appointment with the dentist (not the surgeon who’d performed the procedure). Turns out that dentist is the sweetest (as dentists go). He poked and prodded and took pictures and finally came up with a simple solution to help ease the pain, following which things began to improve. And, he didn’t charge me a dime.

Taking Back Our Emotional Well Being

Taking Back Our Emotional Well Being
Aug 13, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
Last week we continued our discussion on “the power of emotions over happiness” and shared insights from cutting edge scientists, who are merging science and spirituality. Today I’d like to discuss how our conditioning influences our emotions and provide a simple technique on how to begin to make permanent changes in patterns of behavior that cause challenge.

Among those participating in breakthrough studies on the brain (merging science and spirituality), is Dr. Richard Davidson, Professor of Psychology and Psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin. “Dr. Davidson has unearthed some significant findings regarding how the emotion of happiness can be tracked in the brain. Davidson collaborated with His Holiness the Dalia Lama to study monks, who are experienced practitioners in meditation, having...

Balancing Your Emotions

Balancing Your Emotions
Aug 04, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
Last week we talked about the “power of emotions over happiness,” and posed the question, "How can you interrupt the tendency for the "emotional hi-jacking phenomenon" to play out in your world?”

Here are some insights from Joseph LeDoux, Professor of Science in the Center for Neural Sciences at New York University. “…we are evolution in progress… As things now stand, the amygdala (which governs your fight or flight response to perceived or imagined fear  http://bigthink.com/videos/the-amygdala-in-5-minutes) has a greater influence on the cortex (reasoning centers of the brain) than the cortex has on the amygdala, allowing emotional arousal (fight or flight) to dominate and control thinking. Throughout the mammals, pathways from the amygdala to the cortex overshadow the pathways from the...

Watch Your Words

Watch Your Words
Feb 11, 2013 by Luann Robinson Hull
The 5th and final step in our series on New Year, New View, New Perspective, is: “Watch Your Words”

In the following vignette, we are coming from the female perspective, though clearly the genders can be flipped to fit any scenario/dialogue where the example below could be useful.

“Do not cause harm by your words, actions, and deeds. Make certain there are no hidden agendas in what you are presenting. Look at the facts from a place of observation instead of judgment and state them clearly. 

Do say, “I noticed that when you were an hour late for dinner it seemed to really bother me. Can you help me understand what caused your delay? How can we communicate more clearly next time? I am willing to be...

Step 6 in Overcoming Triggers: Surrender the Shame

Step 6 in Overcoming Triggers: Surrender the Shame
Aug 19, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
English: Surrender Moss near Wetshaw Bottom. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

If you've come this far with us, in our series, "Those Things that Trigger You are a Gift," you've learned how to first, recognize when you are triggered, and to stop before you speak out or act on it (step 1). You understand the importance of allowing yourself to feel whatever it is that you are feeling (step 2).  You've read that if you dig deep, you'll uncover whether or not there are some past hurts or issues that are causing you to want to react now (step 3).

We've discussed the importance of getting out of your story... and focusing on what's really happening; that the context of the...

Step 5 in Overcoming Triggers: Choose Happiness over Righteousness

Step 5 in Overcoming Triggers: Choose Happiness over Righteousness
Aug 13, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
By now you have probably realized that our series "Those Things That Trigger You are a Gift" is taken directly from my book Happily Ever After Right Now... Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!  I am thrilled to tell you about Step 5 for Modifying Your Responses. That's because it deals with an essential component to the pursuit of Happiness: CHOICE. Let's jump in. STEP 5: CHOOSE HAPPINESS INSTEAD OF RIGHTEOUSNESS: Ask yourself if you want to be happy or if you want to be right. (This idea originates from A Course in Miracles, Foundation for inner Peace, 1985). Give up the need to control outcomes. Most of us would rather to be right. This desire is directly linked to our survival instinct. And, being happy is not part...

Step 4 in Overcoming Triggers: Get Out of Your Story

Step 4 in Overcoming Triggers: Get Out of Your Story
Aug 05, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
We are moving along in our series “Those Things That Trigger You are a Gift”, and Level I for handling this new information: “Modify Your Responses!” I've shared a number of ways to untangle yourself from the inclination to react angrily or intensely. I am excited to share our next step with you, and hear how it impacts your progress!

STEP 4: FOCUS ON CONTEXT VS. CONTENT: Get Out of Your Story

Our feelings are triggered by thoughts, which, if left uncensored and unrestricted, are like the Sorcerer's apprentice. If we go too deeply into the story, our runaway thoughts can convince us of anything. He doesn't love me. He doesn't care. I am not good enough for him. Begin to notice these thoughts and then...

Step 3 in Overcoming Triggers: Dig Deep

Step 3 in Overcoming Triggers: Dig Deep
Jul 30, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
 

Denver (III) Tire Swing (Photo credit: roeyahram)

STEP THREE: DIG DEEP

Continuing in our series "Those Things That Trigger You are a Gift", and Level 1 for handling this new information: "Modify Your Responses,"  here are the first two steps we've covered, along with their links (in case you'd like to review or catch up): :

Step 1: Notice That You've Been Triggered. Stop Before You Speak or Act.

Step 2: Feel What You Are Feeling. Don't Resist.

The purpose of the first step, is to master the skill of NOTICING when you've been triggered, and to stop before you speak or act.  These are vital in the process of unwinding your reactive inclinations.  The second step is to allow yourself...

Step 2 in Overcoming Triggers: Allow Yourself to "Feel"

Step 2 in Overcoming Triggers: Allow Yourself to "Feel"
Jul 23, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
We've been covering the subject of emotional triggers, recognizing them and dealing with, or overcoming them. Triggers are those little situations or interactions with others that elicit negative or, to put it nicely, "passionate" reactions from us.   Once you've recognized a trigger, there are steps you can take to help unwind your reactive inclinations.  As we discussed last time, step one is to Stop Before You Speak or Act. We learned that by doing this, it not only allows us the opportunity to breathe and calm down, but to think rationally before we speak or act on a decision.

Feel Charm Image from: www.RobbieWilliams.com Step 2 (and an excerpt from my book "Happily Ever After Right Now... Stop Searching!...

Step 1 to Overcoming Triggers: Stop Before You Speak or Act

Step 1 to Overcoming Triggers: Stop Before You Speak or Act
Jul 17, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
Breathe (Photo credit: elycefeliz)

 

In the last Gem, I shared how it’s possible to view those things that trigger you as a gift or an opportunity.  It’s true. Once you realize what triggers you, you can begin to learn the art of stepping back, and taking a breath before you act. This “non action” is the first step to restoring balance and peace. Realize that 95% of the things that send you into the vapors are caused by some thought or memory that is lodged in your subconscious, which means you have no clue what is actually happening in that head of yours—just that a situation in the present has caused you discomfort. And that discomfort is...

Those Things That Trigger You Are a Gift

Those Things That Trigger You Are a Gift
Jun 26, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
(Photo credit: Hades2k)

 

The following is an excerpt taken from my book "Happily Ever After... Right Now," chapter six:

Seeing What Triggers You as a Gift

By facing ourselves and beginning to take a look at what is happening when a partner's behavior triggers a certain emotion within us, we can start to uncover all of our inner treasures. Ultimately what we are attempting to do is to end needless suffering in our lives. Right? And so, in order to accomplish that, we have to eliminate whatever is interrupting us from our happily ever after... right now. Of course, if we don't know what it is, it is impossible to stop it. Disturbance and dis-ease give us important clues. Admittedly,...

On Hummingbirds and Happiness

Jun 14, 2010 by Luann Robinson Hull
The last time we connected in January it seemed it could be a long winter's journey into spring. Now, suddenly it is June when the days extend endlessly into dusk and dawn starts to light up the sky just a few hours after midnight. About the time I find the lengthy winters in Colorado intolerable, summer boldly announces itself. And to me, the hummingbird (appropriately named for its captivating hum) is the official ambassador of the season. They have a magical way of ushering in the warm, sunny days, and bear a stunning resemblance to Peter Pan's Tinkerbelle (if you are inclined to use your imagination).

While observing these fascinating creatures over the past several years, I have noticed that it seems...