Looking At Loss as a Launch Pad

Greetings and welcome to this week’s discussion on choosing to be happy.

“This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness…welcome and entertain them all… Each one may be preparing you for a new delight…”—Rumi

Most of you have experienced a significant loss in one form or another. At the time of that loss, no doubt you suffered anguish and misery. You thought those feelings would endure…maybe even indefinitely. More than likely in your most intense moments of suffering, it would have been difficult to embrace Rumi’s words (“welcome and entertain them all…”).You might have struggled to access the still place within that would have served to be your source of strength and...

Transcending The Difficulties of Life

Greetings to all and welcome to this ongoing discussion on the subject of happiness!

Last week we challenged ourselves to begin observing the constant mind chatter, which if left unattended, will like a whirlpool, swirl us into a spin of looking, seeking, wanting and desiring something to make “it” or us happy. “If I could only be out of debt, have the perfect partner (or tweak the one I have into perfection) lose weight, be taller, younger, wiser, richer…then I would be happy. Or, maybe if I continue attempting to attain these things…even if I can’t be happy now, maybe I will be happy some time in the future. We also challenged ourselves to let go of even one little attachment...

It's Your Ball Baby-Invite Whoever You Want

Put on your high-heeled shoes, girlfriends... and I don't mean glass slippers (too fragile). This is your ball, baby...and you get to invite whoever you want to join you at the dance...King? Prince? Marine? Green Peace Advocate? Who is the true match for your glorious, golden, Queenly self?

Don't settle...Ever again...

Keep on dancin'!!



Say Yes To Growth & See The Truth

Choose to be Queen of your life and open the portals of possibility that await you. Yes, you will worry about the challenges and changes you will face as you expand and grow into your most magnificent nature...What if it doesn't work out? What if its too hard? What if I can't do it? Well...what if you can't? Just pick yourself up and start over...haven't you already done that a thousand times? If you can just allow yourself to be even a little bit vulnerable as you say yes to change you might just be surprised at how quickly your creative nature comes through... ever see a beautiful flower blooming right up through the tiniest crack in cement?

Go girl...and watch yourself bloom!!!

Celebrate! You are the only you there is!!!!!



Quiet & Listening Leads Us To True Joy In Our Hearts

Happiness can only evade us if we are searching and striving for it in the wrong places. Once we are willing to dive toward the ever-open branches of our very own hearts, the singing bird will come and show us how to soar. And when we get quiet enough to listen to her sweet, melodious song, we will be effortlessly guided to all of the mysterious, exotic places that will fill our hearts with more joy than we ever thought possible.

All we have to do is to be willing to embark on the journey to Always Land. It has been there all along, inside of us...just waiting to be discovered. Dare to go there now and leave Never Land behind...forever...

Happiness and love...

Freedom Creates Stability

The more freedom you allow your beloved (and yourself), the more you will contribute to the stability of the relationship. When you try to hold on, or restrict him in any way, you will cause him to feel limited and confined. He must be given the freedom to pursue his purpose with your full support, and vice versa. Learn to accept his truth as your truth, and expect the same from him. (and if this does not appear to be happening despite your ongoing best efforts...well....)

Naturally, making such a personal and collective commitment requires that you continue developing trust...first in yourself, and then in him. You can do it. Go!

Love, joy and truth to you!


Your Glorious, Fulfilled Self Remains, Even If A Beloved Person Departs

Your beloved is the one who will help you to learn more of what you need to know about yourself, more of who you are, and more of who you are becoming. It is crucial, however, for you to remember that without him (her), you will still be your glorious self, and you can still be happy. And with him (her), you have the potential to expand and grow into more happiness and fulfillment.

Remember this as you go about your business this week:

He (or she) is not Prince (or Princess) Charming. Our beloved comes into our life to join us. Not to save us.

Peace, joy and happiness to you!


True Love Comes To Those Who Extend & Expand Themselves

True love has nothing to do with the hit of ecstasy or the bliss common in the beginning phases of romance (or what happens to us when we swoon over George Clooney, Clive Owen or Brad Pitt). Romance does have the potential to take us deeper, though if we remain stuck in romantic fantasy, we eventually will find that this phase is only a temporary solution to an eternal journey. True love when we have it, does not seek or desire, for it only wants to extend and expand....inward, outward, upward and beyond. Likewise, it is from this place of desired expansion that true love comes back to us...in infinite supply...

Enjoy your expansion...enjoy the love that comes back to you as a result!