Have a Little Tenderness

Have a Little Tenderness
If you choose to have a little tenderness toward yourself, or self-love, it can be the Launch Pad to happiness in life and in love.

HAVE A LITTLE TENDERNESS WITH SELF-LOVE: THE LAUNCH PAD The journey of loving and being loved requires making a lifelong commitment to self-love and self-respect. Admit to yourself that you have made mistakes, celebrate your willingness to learn from these errors, and honor your desire to discover and develop your dreams. Be as tender, patient, compassionate, and kind to yourself as you would be to an aging, beloved elder or a tiny, helpless newborn. Learn to love who you are without exceptions. Regard your mistakes as opportunities (I know it sounds cliched, but it really is the...

Peace Is the Way

Peace Is the Way
The way to peace is to notice that peace is the way (Chopra, 2005). And this way to peace is quite simple, although it can seem otherwise. You do not have to make the experience of accessing peace difficult or tedious. Your consciousness is already ripe for a shift to take place in you -- one where (when complete) you will always be operating from this peace of yours, which has heretofore seemed so cleverly to evade you. How do I know about this ripened state that is unfolding in you? Because you would not be attracted to this material if you weren't ready for change.

Most of us are weary of being chained to the pain and pleasure cycle. Of course we believe...

Letting Go

Letting Go
The act of letting go is unequivocally the most effective means to end suffering. It provides the ultimate relief from all of life's challenges -- although often is the most difficult behavior to put into practice. And yet the process of letting go is absolutely natural. We let go of our mother's womb when we are born into this world. When we become mothers ourselves, we are definitely ready to let go of our bulging bellies and aching backs at the end of nine months. Our toddlers leap from our laps and go off to pre-school. We heave a sigh of relief in one breath and catch ourselves choking on tears in another. When our children leave home for the...

Just Breathe

Just Breathe
Inhalation is our first autonomous act at birth, and exhalation is our final farewell as we transition from this world to the next one. As long as we are drawing breath -- even if we lose everything else -- we have a companion. Inhaling and exhaling is what keeps us alive. Breathing also acts as a metaphor for the cycles of life, which are to begin, end, start, finish, arrive, or leave. As we breathe in and then release that breath, we create a natural rhythm of letting go, dying to the old, and making room for the new. In exhaling, you cannot bring back the same breath that you just discharged. Think of the effort it would take to...

Reprogramming Ourselves: Stepping Away From Love Addiction

Reprogramming Ourselves: Stepping Away From Love Addiction
Letting go of lifelong habits involves introducing new thought forms to replace the old ones and learning how to make them stick. We all have the potential to begin our relationships from a healthy seed, but when it is neglected and left to rot, it cannot germinate and grow into its full and lasting potential. The endless cycle of “love”/loss repeats itself until or unless the participants individually and collectively become conscious of what is causing the decay.

Our addictions cannot be released until we recognize them as such — until we can admit to ourselves what we are doing and that it is a sure recipe for disaster. That is the first step. The next step is to change. Naturally,...

Cosmic Love Story Revisited

Cosmic Love Story Revisited
"For a fully enlightened being, the difference between what is neurosis and what is wisdom is very hard to perceive, because somehow the energy underlying both is the same." - Chodron (1991, p. 21)

Love Story ♡ (Photo credit: Flocke™)

Hope and fear are intimately connected. There are things we like and want to keep, and there are things we don't like and want to get rid of. We are attached, and repelled; repelled and attached. It is easy to let go when we don't want something anymore, but letting go of something that we still desire, or even crave on some level, is quite another matter. How can we come to know more intimately the feelings we...

Dallas Divorce Conference Panelist: Luann Robinson Hull

Dallas Divorce Conference Panelist: Luann Robinson Hull
I'm honored to be a panelist at the festival where my book, "Happily Ever After Right Now" won an award, and discuss marketing approaches for authors. Here is the information, and you may go to the festival's website for more details as well: WHEN & WHERE:  Saturday, February 16, 2013 from 9 a.m. to 6:30 p.m. at the Westin Stonebriar, 1549 Legacy Drive in Frisko, TX. MY PANEL:  2:45 p.m. - 3:45 p.m. Happily Ever After Marriage COST:  $35.00 If you live in the area, I'd love to see you!

Radio Interview on The Best People We Know with Luann Robinson Hull

Radio Interview on The Best People We Know with Luann Robinson Hull
TUESDAY, February 25, 2013 I'll Be on  The Best People We Know radio show with Deborah Scott! Please tune in and feel free to CALL!  Click here to hear the recorded show!

Find a Way to Love Yourself

Find a Way to Love Yourself
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Dear Hearts,

Wanting to do a post Valentine’s Day “check-in” with you! I was recently accepted as a writer for Huffington Post. My first article was titled “ 3 Practical Valentine’s Tips for Attracting or Enhancing Love” (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/luann-robinson-hull/love-advice_b_2641372.html).

The following excerpt is step 1: Find a Way To Love Yourself.

You can read and post your comments to the complete article using the above link, or comment on this post.  Stay tuned next week for more tips.

Find a way to love yourself. I realize the whole idea of “self-love” has been “woo wooed” to death. Nonetheless, it is the single most important factor for you to figure out how to do. And while you are in the discovery process, please...

Watch Your Words

Watch Your Words
The 5th and final step in our series on New Year, New View, New Perspective, is: “Watch Your Words”

In the following vignette, we are coming from the female perspective, though clearly the genders can be flipped to fit any scenario/dialogue where the example below could be useful.

“Do not cause harm by your words, actions, and deeds. Make certain there are no hidden agendas in what you are presenting. Look at the facts from a place of observation instead of judgment and state them clearly. 

Do say, “I noticed that when you were an hour late for dinner it seemed to really bother me. Can you help me understand what caused your delay? How can we communicate more clearly next time? I am willing to be...

Assume You Are an Active Participant

Assume You Are an Active Participant
Step 4 in our series called New Year, New View, New Perspective, is a simple, but important one: "Assume You are an Active Participant in What's Going on."

Birds of Paradise (Photo credit: maxful) Regardless of how you see it, the reality is that you have been invited to the ball, and both of you are "dancing" here. Any issues you face may look as though they are all "him," but they aren't. Be clear on your part in getting out of rhythm and discover what you can do to shift it if you aren't comfortable with the tempo anymore. Let that sit for a while. Next week we'll cover the final step in gaining a New View & New...

As Without, So Within

As Without, So Within
Step 3 of our series called New Year, New View, New Perspective is "Remember: As Without, So Within."



Let's get right to it, shall we?

Psychologist Carl Gustav Jung (1964) introduced the idea of "active imagination" in dream interpretation. His exercises consist of listing each person who shows up in a dream. Who is visiting and what message do they bring me? Is there any part of me that is trying to get my attention here through them? Could they all be representing some aspect of me?

Use this technique with your significant other. If you wish your partner would tell you he/she loves you, assume you need to tell yourself more often. If you want them to call more frequently, ask how...

Watch for Familiar Patterns

Watch for Familiar Patterns
Continuing in our series,“New Year, New View, New Perspective,” here is Step 2, which is “Watch For Familiar Patterns.” We are working toward “repositioning” or changing the messages about relationships in our minds (our conditioning).  I believe this week’s step is crucial in developing a fresh, new perspective on intimacy and how we relate to our partners.

If what's played out between you and your partner feels familiar, it probably is. Be vigilant. It is critical that you notice the behavioral patterns showing up here that haven't worked for you before, so that you can clearly see what you want to change in yourself. We will cover the topic of “As Without, So Within,” next week, and how to begin to make...

A Panel Event: The Art of Marketing and Promotion

A Panel Event: The Art of Marketing and Promotion
I'm honored to be a panelist at the festival where my book, "Happily Ever After Right Now" won an award, and discuss marketing approaches for authors. Here is the information, and you may go to the festival's website for more details as well:

WHEN & WHERE:  Saturday, January 19, 2013 from 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. at the Omni Parker House Hotel, 60 School Street in Boston, 02108. MY PANEL:  11.am.-12:15 p.m. The Art of Marketing and Promotion – An examination of what it takes to get your book noticed in a crowded marketplace. Panelists: Stephanie Blackman, Publisher, Riverhaven Books Katherine Mayfield, Author, “The Box of Daughter” Mollie Ostroski, Author/Publisher, “Duck Tape” Suzie Canale, Author, The Candy Roses of Cape Care Me! COST:  FREE If you live in the area, I'd love to...

Your Partner's Behavior Mirrors Your Own

Your Partner's Behavior Mirrors Your Own
Last week we began a new series, "New Year, New View, New Perspective" -- a continuation of a series we did last year titled "Those Things That Trigger You Are a Gift." To start off our series, our first step is "Assume Your Partner's Behavior Mirrors Your Own."  Let's jump in!

It is way too easy to get into the "he is a jerk" game (we'll go with the male example from here on out to keep it fluid, but this piece is equally applicable for both male and females). When we become irritated, it takes courage to look at the situation from an objective point of view, but if you are willing to do so you might see what bothers...

New Year: New View, New Perspective

New Year: New View, New Perspective
To launch us into a healthy New Year, I'd like to begin Level II of that series, titled: "New Year: New View, New Perspective" Before we jump in let me briefly share what was covered in Level I of the series.  Here are the links with brief summaries of those posts for your review (feel free to skip down to the new post if you remember this):

Those Things That Trigger You Are a Gift

By facing ourselves and beginning to take a look at what is happening when a partner’s behavior triggers a certain emotion within us, we can start to uncover all of our inner treasures. Ultimately what we are attempting to do is to end needless suffering in our lives....

Happy Holidays with Love, Joy and Peace... Right Now

Happy Holidays with Love, Joy and Peace... Right Now
Dear Friends,

Wishing you love, joy and peace right now!



Happy Holidays!

Love, 

Luann

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How "Happily Ever After…Right Now" Helps Me Keep My Joy - by Veronica Cuyugan

How "Happily Ever After…Right Now" Helps Me Keep My Joy - by Veronica Cuyugan
From the Acknowledgements to the Epilogue, this labor of love I’ve had the utmost privilege of reading has touched my life in such a profound way that I literally want to hand it out to every single woman I know. Happily Ever After…Right Now epitomizes metaphysical guidance between pages – it’s so much more than a self-help book. It’s a comprehensive review of our history; why we react the way we do to certain emotional stimuli and how we can correct ourselves so that we live in our Queen essence. Happily…reiterated the lesson I learned long ago- that happiness does not come from a source outside of me, but rather from within, by nurturing the divine love that is my...

The Queen's Jewels

The Queen's Jewels
Useful Gems for Reprogramming Ourselves as Women Colorful gems. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

Last week I shared an excerpt from my book, "Happily Ever After Right Now" on reprogramming ourselves, and how the only way we can discover true happiness is to be thorough in our investigation of self.  Below are a few gems (or jewels), which can serve as cues on how to take the inner journey.

Whether dormant and disguised or fully operative in their most optimal brilliance, the polishing of these gemstones is what will awaken us to the true callings of the heart. It is no coincidence that each number below represents a chapter title of my book: 1. Entitlement: Let Go of the Longing for the...

Relationships: Re-Programming Ourselves as Women

Relationships: Re-Programming Ourselves as Women
It is our ancient conditioning that keeps us stuck in old thought patterns and behaviors about love and relationships. So, then how can we emancipate ourselves from this conditioning's grasp? The primal beliefs and thoughts etched into our consciousness can be automatically triggered by an event. Just like the enchantment that caused Sleeping Beauty to fall asleep when she pricked her finger on the spinning wheel at age sixteen, our old fearful spells kick in when we feel rejected or alone. We can dismantle the power of our ancient conditioning (which wants us to believe that we are sure prey for the lurking monsters) by creating new beliefs and incantations of Entitlement.

The point is that we need to be committed to becoming aware of...