Personal Growth

You Deserve Excellence

You Deserve Excellence
If there is even a tiny part of you that can start to believe, and then actually begin to know that you deserve excellence across every area of your life, the heart voice (that we spoke of last week) will become more and more audible. Remember: You were born to be loved, appreciated, and celebrated. And as you can continue to love, appreciate, and celebrate yourself (regardless of your perceived mistakes), so then can others see you in your state of grandeur. No matter how your personality may have taken form, you are still part of the royal bloodline that launched us all on this mysterious, earthly adventure. You have sprouted from the Divine seed that is the Source of everything -- the Heavens, the Earth,...

Listen to Your Heart-Voice

Listen to Your Heart-Voice
Many of you have been on the pilgrimage toward happiness and health for a while. Time and again, you have felt the ecstasy after making measurable progress followed by the agony when you slipped back into old behavioral patterns. You have been connected to the sense of freedom and peace that you've so desperately wanted to sustain, only to watch that state of bliss evade and elude you yet another time. You have discovered certain things that work; let go of things that don't; stuck to some stuff for a while; slacked off; gone back to old patterns; started new ones; picked up the latest book; gone to another workshop; hired therapists, healers, coaches, spiritual mentors, doctors and others, all...

Queens Act Like Queens

Queens Act Like Queens
Artwork Copyright © Jennifer Baird, Used by Permission, http://1-jennifer-baird.fineartamerica.com. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferbairdartist The idea of Magnificence can bring sharply into focus all of the ways you do not feel Magnificent in the form of your shortcomings and faults. We are constantly exposed to the emotional toxicity that has accumulated in the world, bombarding us from every angle. We know it well. This negative conditioning (provoked by our "old rugged brain") can exaggerate fear, confusion, worry, and anxiety, all of which impede growth and disrupt the journey toward love, joy, freedom, and truth. The "hell" created from venomous thoughts, deeds and actions -- is a part of our individual and combined story. When we subscribe to this way of operating, we perpetuate hell's grip on us, interrupting our...

Let Go of Forever and Live for Now

Let Go of Forever and Live for Now
Let Go of Forever & LIVE FOR NOW
"The only authentic responsibility is toward your own potential, your own intelligence and awareness-and to act accordingly... if you act according to your past, that is reaction... Response is moment to moment. It has nothing to do with memory, it has something to do with your awareness. You see the situation with clarity; you are clean, silent, serene. Out of this serenity, you act spontaneously. It is not reaction, it is action. You have never done it before. And the beauty of it is that it will suite the situation." (Osho, 2003, p.32).

How can we give up our conditioned...

Be Your Own Fairy Godmother

Be Your Own Fairy Godmother
You don't need to wait for a fairy godmother to bestow surprising and wonderful gifts on you. Instead, become one yourself. How? Show up. Bring balance to the masculine and feminine aspects of your nature. Have faith and charity of heart. Follow your insights. Bring forward your passions. Become that which you seek from another. Emanate love and happiness from the core of your being. Herein lies the basic view from which all successful relationships can develop: I do not need you, but rather I choose you, so that I can contribute to your growth, and you to mine. From this lens comes the most stunning opportunity for magical Majesty to unfold in your world. You will continue to discover that the Universe loves...

A New Relationship Paradigm

A New Relationship Paradigm
In a relationship model where happiness (not to be confused with immediate gratification or pleasure) is the primary value, the Prince could be seen as a gift that Cinderella had not expected. Had he not shown up, she would have gone on to live her life contentedly. (Naturally, the same would be true for the Prince.) He was a partner with whom she could experience an even grander version of herself. Their combined love and devotion would provide a new opportunity for growth, individually as well as a couple. They would come to know that their relationship was just one of a multitude of choices for developing their personal and collective talents and treasures.



Cinderella and Prince Charming would have a chance...

Catch Yourself Being Queenly (or Kingly)

Recall the moments when you've stepped fully into your Magnificence. It may have been the first time you addressed your parents from a powerful place as an adult, or when you performed beyond your expectations in a leadership role. Maybe it was in attaining some cherished goal or winning an award. Perhaps you are becoming more authentic in your relationships, feeling comfortable identifying and expressing your truth. If you are willing, capture your victories in writing and read them often. What are your most Magnificent qualities?

Have you ever gone beyond your comfort zone in pursuit of your passions?

What goals have you accomplished?

In what ways do you deserve praise?

What is it about you that is strikingly grand or impressive -- exceptionally fine? Use this process as an...

Connection: A Paradox

Connection: A Paradox
As we concentrate on balancing whatever appears to be out of whack in ourselves, at some point we come to understand that our capacity to love, create, and reach our most expanded potential cannot be complete without experiencing human relationships. And the paradox inherent in this realization is that we won't be truly balanced until we are willing to let go of everything to which we believe we must be connected in order to survive. Often our attachments and addictions are subtle. We can rationalize them, particularly when we don't want to take a look at what we might be doing to create our own misery. Frequently we feel that it is impossible to detach from our harmful habits, at least until...

Have a Little Tenderness

Have a Little Tenderness
If you choose to have a little tenderness toward yourself, or self-love, it can be the Launch Pad to happiness in life and in love.

HAVE A LITTLE TENDERNESS WITH SELF-LOVE: THE LAUNCH PAD The journey of loving and being loved requires making a lifelong commitment to self-love and self-respect. Admit to yourself that you have made mistakes, celebrate your willingness to learn from these errors, and honor your desire to discover and develop your dreams. Be as tender, patient, compassionate, and kind to yourself as you would be to an aging, beloved elder or a tiny, helpless newborn. Learn to love who you are without exceptions. Regard your mistakes as opportunities (I know it sounds cliched, but it really is the...

Peace Is the Way

Peace Is the Way
The way to peace is to notice that peace is the way (Chopra, 2005). And this way to peace is quite simple, although it can seem otherwise. You do not have to make the experience of accessing peace difficult or tedious. Your consciousness is already ripe for a shift to take place in you -- one where (when complete) you will always be operating from this peace of yours, which has heretofore seemed so cleverly to evade you. How do I know about this ripened state that is unfolding in you? Because you would not be attracted to this material if you weren't ready for change.

Most of us are weary of being chained to the pain and pleasure cycle. Of course we believe...

Letting Go

Letting Go
The act of letting go is unequivocally the most effective means to end suffering. It provides the ultimate relief from all of life's challenges -- although often is the most difficult behavior to put into practice. And yet the process of letting go is absolutely natural. We let go of our mother's womb when we are born into this world. When we become mothers ourselves, we are definitely ready to let go of our bulging bellies and aching backs at the end of nine months. Our toddlers leap from our laps and go off to pre-school. We heave a sigh of relief in one breath and catch ourselves choking on tears in another. When our children leave home for the...

Just Breathe

Just Breathe
Inhalation is our first autonomous act at birth, and exhalation is our final farewell as we transition from this world to the next one. As long as we are drawing breath -- even if we lose everything else -- we have a companion. Inhaling and exhaling is what keeps us alive. Breathing also acts as a metaphor for the cycles of life, which are to begin, end, start, finish, arrive, or leave. As we breathe in and then release that breath, we create a natural rhythm of letting go, dying to the old, and making room for the new. In exhaling, you cannot bring back the same breath that you just discharged. Think of the effort it would take to...

Reprogramming Ourselves: Stepping Away From Love Addiction

Reprogramming Ourselves: Stepping Away From Love Addiction
Letting go of lifelong habits involves introducing new thought forms to replace the old ones and learning how to make them stick. We all have the potential to begin our relationships from a healthy seed, but when it is neglected and left to rot, it cannot germinate and grow into its full and lasting potential. The endless cycle of “love”/loss repeats itself until or unless the participants individually and collectively become conscious of what is causing the decay.

Our addictions cannot be released until we recognize them as such — until we can admit to ourselves what we are doing and that it is a sure recipe for disaster. That is the first step. The next step is to change. Naturally,...

Cosmic Love Story Revisited

Cosmic Love Story Revisited
"For a fully enlightened being, the difference between what is neurosis and what is wisdom is very hard to perceive, because somehow the energy underlying both is the same." - Chodron (1991, p. 21)

Love Story ♡ (Photo credit: Flocke™)

Hope and fear are intimately connected. There are things we like and want to keep, and there are things we don't like and want to get rid of. We are attached, and repelled; repelled and attached. It is easy to let go when we don't want something anymore, but letting go of something that we still desire, or even crave on some level, is quite another matter. How can we come to know more intimately the feelings we...

Find a Way to Love Yourself

Find a Way to Love Yourself
love yourself (Photo credit: crafty_dame)

Dear Hearts,

Wanting to do a post Valentine’s Day “check-in” with you! I was recently accepted as a writer for Huffington Post. My first article was titled “ 3 Practical Valentine’s Tips for Attracting or Enhancing Love” (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/luann-robinson-hull/love-advice_b_2641372.html).

The following excerpt is step 1: Find a Way To Love Yourself.

You can read and post your comments to the complete article using the above link, or comment on this post.  Stay tuned next week for more tips.

Find a way to love yourself. I realize the whole idea of “self-love” has been “woo wooed” to death. Nonetheless, it is the single most important factor for you to figure out how to do. And while you are in the discovery process, please...

Watch Your Words

Watch Your Words
The 5th and final step in our series on New Year, New View, New Perspective, is: “Watch Your Words”

In the following vignette, we are coming from the female perspective, though clearly the genders can be flipped to fit any scenario/dialogue where the example below could be useful.

“Do not cause harm by your words, actions, and deeds. Make certain there are no hidden agendas in what you are presenting. Look at the facts from a place of observation instead of judgment and state them clearly. 

Do say, “I noticed that when you were an hour late for dinner it seemed to really bother me. Can you help me understand what caused your delay? How can we communicate more clearly next time? I am willing to be...

Assume You Are an Active Participant

Assume You Are an Active Participant
Step 4 in our series called New Year, New View, New Perspective, is a simple, but important one: "Assume You are an Active Participant in What's Going on."

Birds of Paradise (Photo credit: maxful) Regardless of how you see it, the reality is that you have been invited to the ball, and both of you are "dancing" here. Any issues you face may look as though they are all "him," but they aren't. Be clear on your part in getting out of rhythm and discover what you can do to shift it if you aren't comfortable with the tempo anymore. Let that sit for a while. Next week we'll cover the final step in gaining a New View & New...

As Without, So Within

As Without, So Within
Step 3 of our series called New Year, New View, New Perspective is "Remember: As Without, So Within."



Let's get right to it, shall we?

Psychologist Carl Gustav Jung (1964) introduced the idea of "active imagination" in dream interpretation. His exercises consist of listing each person who shows up in a dream. Who is visiting and what message do they bring me? Is there any part of me that is trying to get my attention here through them? Could they all be representing some aspect of me?

Use this technique with your significant other. If you wish your partner would tell you he/she loves you, assume you need to tell yourself more often. If you want them to call more frequently, ask how...

Watch for Familiar Patterns

Watch for Familiar Patterns
Continuing in our series,“New Year, New View, New Perspective,” here is Step 2, which is “Watch For Familiar Patterns.” We are working toward “repositioning” or changing the messages about relationships in our minds (our conditioning).  I believe this week’s step is crucial in developing a fresh, new perspective on intimacy and how we relate to our partners.

If what's played out between you and your partner feels familiar, it probably is. Be vigilant. It is critical that you notice the behavioral patterns showing up here that haven't worked for you before, so that you can clearly see what you want to change in yourself. We will cover the topic of “As Without, So Within,” next week, and how to begin to make...

Your Partner's Behavior Mirrors Your Own

Your Partner's Behavior Mirrors Your Own
Last week we began a new series, "New Year, New View, New Perspective" -- a continuation of a series we did last year titled "Those Things That Trigger You Are a Gift." To start off our series, our first step is "Assume Your Partner's Behavior Mirrors Your Own."  Let's jump in!

It is way too easy to get into the "he is a jerk" game (we'll go with the male example from here on out to keep it fluid, but this piece is equally applicable for both male and females). When we become irritated, it takes courage to look at the situation from an objective point of view, but if you are willing to do so you might see what bothers...