Taking Back Our Emotional Well Being

Taking Back Our Emotional Well Being
Last week we continued our discussion on “the power of emotions over happiness” and shared insights from cutting edge scientists, who are merging science and spirituality. Today I’d like to discuss how our conditioning influences our emotions and provide a simple technique on how to begin to make permanent changes in patterns of behavior that cause challenge.

Among those participating in breakthrough studies on the brain (merging science and spirituality), is Dr. Richard Davidson, Professor of Psychology and Psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin. “Dr. Davidson has unearthed some significant findings regarding how the emotion of happiness can be tracked in the brain. Davidson collaborated with His Holiness the Dalia Lama to study monks, who are experienced practitioners in meditation, having...

Balancing Your Emotions

Balancing Your Emotions
Last week we talked about the “power of emotions over happiness,” and posed the question, "How can you interrupt the tendency for the "emotional hi-jacking phenomenon" to play out in your world?”

Here are some insights from Joseph LeDoux, Professor of Science in the Center for Neural Sciences at New York University. “…we are evolution in progress… As things now stand, the amygdala (which governs your fight or flight response to perceived or imagined fear  http://bigthink.com/videos/the-amygdala-in-5-minutes) has a greater influence on the cortex (reasoning centers of the brain) than the cortex has on the amygdala, allowing emotional arousal (fight or flight) to dominate and control thinking. Throughout the mammals, pathways from the amygdala to the cortex overshadow the pathways from the...

The Power of Emotions Over Happiness

The July 15, 2013 issue of Time Magazine introduced a series of articles on “happiness,” and emphasized a point, which I made in my recent Huffington Post article (excerpt below) : “Being distracted (by emotional charges, thoughts, etc.) blunts responses in the brain (Time,  pp. 30).” That's a pretty radical statement! Your thoughts and emotional charges will blunt responses in the brain? Yes, they will.

“Here is a key point that I have learned from devoting much of my professional life to studying the effects of human emotions. The raw, impulsive ones, like fear, excessive worry, and anger will absolutely hi-jack happiness and well being—every single time. And, once these emotions take hold, they can have a fierce grip. So, if we are going to...

Inspired Atop Aspen Mountain

Inspired Atop Aspen Mountain
I recorded a one-minute video Gem from inside the gondola on my way down from Aspen Mountain a couple of weeks ago, and I’d love to share it with you here.

I was inspired as I reflected that I’d been hiking/climbing up Aspen Mountain for over eleven years. That is a long time. And yet, when I started I didn’t think I could do it. I never thought I could come close to successfully climbing that mountain, and yet I do it now on a regular basis.

The basic premise? You can accomplish anything you put your mind to. How? I offer a quick tip in this very short video.

I invite you to watch the one-minute video by clicking here, or if you are reading this online...

The Look of Real Love

The Look of Real Love
Being aware of our need to change our conditioned responses is a good start in establishing healthy patterns in relationships. But awareness alone does not cause change. Change can only occur when you make a conscious decision to do whatever it takes to go boldly toward all that will help you to first become the love of your own life, prior to searching for love in other places. You have to be able to recognize real love by first experiencing it through a conscious commitment to loving yourself. And once you do, you will know from every awakening cell in your being that you don't need someone else to provide what you already have. Then when a potential partner appears (or is already beside you), you...

It's High Time to Reprogram Our Brains

It's High Time to Reprogram Our Brains
Following up on my last article "Soul Sister (or Brother)" -- In order to succeed in our quest to tune into our own heart and soul and loving ourselves, we have to be committed.

We must be vigilant around any negative thoughts that are self directed, and turn these thoughts into loving kindness. Notice how deeply conditioned negativity is. Here is a simple example. Suppose you are in school and you just have done poorly on a test (by your standards). What is your first inclination? Is it to tell yourself how wonderful you are for even trying to do your best on the test (compassion)? Is it to find all of the ways that you have been successful in this...

Soul Sister (or Brother)

Soul Sister (or Brother)
If we really want to experience true intimacy with a partner, then we have to be willing to tune into our very own heart and soul. What is the secret to finding happiness, the right partner, the right career, enough money, better looks, more energy and the greater health? You must begin by making a commitment to loving yourself. The soul sister/brother that lives in your essence will never leave or forsake you. Marry him/her first (or marry "him/her" now if you are already "actually" married). Go and buy yourself a simple little eternity ring. Slip it on your finger and make a personal pledge to begin (or continue) learning how to provide for yourself absolutely everything that you think (or thought) you would...

Celebrating Summer!

Celebrating Summer!
Our alpine ice-land is finally beginning to melt after a pretty persistent winter (see the snowy peaks below).

And in the spirit of celebrating the season, I am offering the e-book version of Happily Ever After...Right Now at a special price for the summer months.

Here is what Deb Scott, host of The Best People We Know radio show said about Happily:  A New Standard for Every Woman! Required Reading! March 7, 2013 "... I wish I had this book 20 years ago. Don't wait - get it - read it - give it - as a gift to yourself or anyone you love. I think this would be a fabulous book club read as well. A new classic. – Deb Scott I invite you to take...

Love Lamp

Love Lamp
Realize that you have an inexhaustible inner light that glows even in your darkest moments. This light is eternal. It can never be extinguished. And the only way for you to actually experience its full, radiant brilliance is to embrace all of those attributes in yourself that you love, and then accept the qualities that you would rather not acknowledge. How is this possible? By opening our hearts and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, over and over again, eventually, what you will come to realize, as you proceed with such a practice, is that all of your suffering is actually just a result of your perceptions, having nothing...

You Deserve Excellence

You Deserve Excellence
If there is even a tiny part of you that can start to believe, and then actually begin to know that you deserve excellence across every area of your life, the heart voice (that we spoke of last week) will become more and more audible. Remember: You were born to be loved, appreciated, and celebrated. And as you can continue to love, appreciate, and celebrate yourself (regardless of your perceived mistakes), so then can others see you in your state of grandeur. No matter how your personality may have taken form, you are still part of the royal bloodline that launched us all on this mysterious, earthly adventure. You have sprouted from the Divine seed that is the Source of everything -- the Heavens, the Earth,...

Listen to Your Heart-Voice

Listen to Your Heart-Voice
Many of you have been on the pilgrimage toward happiness and health for a while. Time and again, you have felt the ecstasy after making measurable progress followed by the agony when you slipped back into old behavioral patterns. You have been connected to the sense of freedom and peace that you've so desperately wanted to sustain, only to watch that state of bliss evade and elude you yet another time. You have discovered certain things that work; let go of things that don't; stuck to some stuff for a while; slacked off; gone back to old patterns; started new ones; picked up the latest book; gone to another workshop; hired therapists, healers, coaches, spiritual mentors, doctors and others, all...

Queens Act Like Queens

Queens Act Like Queens
Artwork Copyright © Jennifer Baird, Used by Permission, http://1-jennifer-baird.fineartamerica.com. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferbairdartist The idea of Magnificence can bring sharply into focus all of the ways you do not feel Magnificent in the form of your shortcomings and faults. We are constantly exposed to the emotional toxicity that has accumulated in the world, bombarding us from every angle. We know it well. This negative conditioning (provoked by our "old rugged brain") can exaggerate fear, confusion, worry, and anxiety, all of which impede growth and disrupt the journey toward love, joy, freedom, and truth. The "hell" created from venomous thoughts, deeds and actions -- is a part of our individual and combined story. When we subscribe to this way of operating, we perpetuate hell's grip on us, interrupting our...

Let Go of Forever and Live for Now

Let Go of Forever and Live for Now
Let Go of Forever & LIVE FOR NOW
"The only authentic responsibility is toward your own potential, your own intelligence and awareness-and to act accordingly... if you act according to your past, that is reaction... Response is moment to moment. It has nothing to do with memory, it has something to do with your awareness. You see the situation with clarity; you are clean, silent, serene. Out of this serenity, you act spontaneously. It is not reaction, it is action. You have never done it before. And the beauty of it is that it will suite the situation." (Osho, 2003, p.32).

How can we give up our conditioned...

Embodying The Perfect Mother

Embodying The Perfect Mother
Happy Mother's Day!

Take a few moments to visualize how you would have wanted to be parented if you could re-invent your childhood experience. Now, create the perfect mother and father in your mind. If there were qualities of both of your parents that you particularly admired, add those to the profile of the imaginary parents you are now envisioning. Be expansive in your creation. There are no limits. These people are Magnificent. They are wonderfully balanced in both their feminine and masculine nature. They are conscious, loving spirits. There is no end to their wisdom, strength, love and compassion. Keep creating. Keep contributing to their creation. Take some time with this activity and write it all down.

Now, decide that you will...

On Connecting

Many of the great philosophers say that the core of all suffering is rooted in the belief of a self separate from others and from God (or your version of what created you). If this is indeed so, it seems especially odd to me how we humans frequently sabotage our chances for connection with people and the world around us by our own behaviors and attitudes.

I am currently visiting NYC where it appears that this “separation syndrome” is alive and well. Roughly two million people live in Manhattan, and on top of that around 16 million come and go to and from the city each day. Of this demographic many ride the subway on which I have recently had occasion...

Be Your Own Fairy Godmother

Be Your Own Fairy Godmother
You don't need to wait for a fairy godmother to bestow surprising and wonderful gifts on you. Instead, become one yourself. How? Show up. Bring balance to the masculine and feminine aspects of your nature. Have faith and charity of heart. Follow your insights. Bring forward your passions. Become that which you seek from another. Emanate love and happiness from the core of your being. Herein lies the basic view from which all successful relationships can develop: I do not need you, but rather I choose you, so that I can contribute to your growth, and you to mine. From this lens comes the most stunning opportunity for magical Majesty to unfold in your world. You will continue to discover that the Universe loves...

A New Relationship Paradigm

A New Relationship Paradigm
In a relationship model where happiness (not to be confused with immediate gratification or pleasure) is the primary value, the Prince could be seen as a gift that Cinderella had not expected. Had he not shown up, she would have gone on to live her life contentedly. (Naturally, the same would be true for the Prince.) He was a partner with whom she could experience an even grander version of herself. Their combined love and devotion would provide a new opportunity for growth, individually as well as a couple. They would come to know that their relationship was just one of a multitude of choices for developing their personal and collective talents and treasures.



Cinderella and Prince Charming would have a chance...

Catch Yourself Being Queenly (or Kingly)

Recall the moments when you've stepped fully into your Magnificence. It may have been the first time you addressed your parents from a powerful place as an adult, or when you performed beyond your expectations in a leadership role. Maybe it was in attaining some cherished goal or winning an award. Perhaps you are becoming more authentic in your relationships, feeling comfortable identifying and expressing your truth. If you are willing, capture your victories in writing and read them often. What are your most Magnificent qualities?

Have you ever gone beyond your comfort zone in pursuit of your passions?

What goals have you accomplished?

In what ways do you deserve praise?

What is it about you that is strikingly grand or impressive -- exceptionally fine? Use this process as an...

Connection: A Paradox

Connection: A Paradox
As we concentrate on balancing whatever appears to be out of whack in ourselves, at some point we come to understand that our capacity to love, create, and reach our most expanded potential cannot be complete without experiencing human relationships. And the paradox inherent in this realization is that we won't be truly balanced until we are willing to let go of everything to which we believe we must be connected in order to survive. Often our attachments and addictions are subtle. We can rationalize them, particularly when we don't want to take a look at what we might be doing to create our own misery. Frequently we feel that it is impossible to detach from our harmful habits, at least until...

Global Conscious Leadership & Oneness Practices Workshop

Global Conscious Leadership & Oneness Practices Workshop
I’m pleased to be teaching a workshop called Global Conscious Leadership & Oneness Practices with Tara Sheahan, my colleague who co-founded the Conscious Global Leadership Institute with me. You can find details on the class being offered by the Watson Caring Science Institute & International Caring Consortium. If you’re interested to learn more: http://watsoncaringscience.org/event-registration/?ee=1. WHEN & WHERE:  Thursday, April 11, 2013 from 8 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. at the Hotel Boulderado, 2115 Thirteenth Street, Boulder, CO 80302 COST:  $450.00