Obtaining True Happiness: Letting Go of Attachments & Inexhaustible Desires

Jun 20, 2008 by Luann Robinson Hull

The purpose of our first six weekly gems, (taken directly from the material in Happily Ever After…Right Now) has been to encourage you to continue to explore new ways of framing your thoughts around how to take charge of your life, your relationships, and your state of well being and joy…and to provide a foundation for your ongoing exploration of what it takes to make you truly happy….

Over the next six weeks we will focus directly on the topic of happiness…this mysterious, yet evasive quality that each and every human in existence hopes to experience...on a full time basis. Saint Augustine writes, in The Happy Life, “…the desire for happiness is essential to man [woman]. It is the motivator of all acts. The most venerable, clearly understood, enlightened, and reliable constant in the world is not only that we want to be happy, but that we want only to be so. Our very nature requires it of us.”—Matthieu Ricard ( from his book on, Happiness, 2003)

What does it mean to be truly happy? What are the conditions and variables that will take us to that place where suffering is no longer an issue and a sense of peace and well being prevails, no matter what the external events or circumstances of our lives? Why is it that the feeling of happiness is so slippery and unpredictable? What can be done to maintain it?

We will continue to explore these questions as well as others that arise from you over the next few weeks. As for this week, take time to explore your inner landscape. Make a commitment to yourself upon arising each morning for the next seven days, that you will attempt to let go of at least one of the inexhaustible desires (and they are never ending, if you are human), which continue to nag at you and interrupt your peace. Start small. Is having the ice cream cone really what you want…or is there something else underneath that desire that might be gnawing at you? Take a moment and dare to dig just even a little beyond your comfort zone and see what you discover. Nudge yourself an inch or two closer to any fears that may arise.

Now, sit with your fear if only for a minute…then, once the minute has passed, notice and give credence to any feelings of relief…

There…that wasn’t so bad, was it? Continue to let go and get beneath the surface of at least one nagging desire daily for the next week, as we continue in the exploration of our inner landscapes and what makes us truly happy.

Rest easy…all is well…