The Magic of Majesty

The Magic of Majesty
Oct 13, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
Photo: Hanging Lake, Colorado. Photo Credit: Lisa Jey Davis © 2005 As you diminish your victim thoughts, words, and actions, you will begin to tap into the magic of the Queen/King. Like the heroes/heroines in fairy tales who had to accomplish some seemingly impossible task, you will be able to set aside apparent "real" limits and move steadily to your goals coming from the inspirations of your heart. The Grimm's (fairy tale) girls, for instance, invariably did what they needed to do -- they got a good night's sleep -- and allowed the guidance of their inner wisdom to handle the rest. The internal womb of stillness will always point us to peace. Our only task is to listen and then follow where...

The Payoff

The Payoff
Oct 08, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
"Much of your pain is self-chosen. It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self. Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy in silence and tranquility: For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen, and the cup he brings forth, though it burns your lips, has been fashioned of the clay which the Potter has moistened with His own sacred tears." -- Kahlil Gibran (1951, p. 51) The Prophet Image credit: Kahlil Gibran, "The Prophet" on Facebook  How did we get to be such drudges -- such slaves? Cultural stories steadily seep into our psyche like a leaky faucet that never gets fixed. Then, our conditioning ensconces them...

New Stories, New Enchantments

New Stories, New Enchantments
Oct 01, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
Image credit: Mike Barret, "Crystal of Enchantment" http://michaelthomasbarrett.blogspot.com/2011/03/enchanted.html As we become more and more willing to be completely transparent in all of our relationships, the more freedom we will have for unlimited growth. And, in our willingness to be totally open and honest, we provide the space for others to choose clarity and integrity for themselves. When speaking and living the truth without being concerned about others leaving when we do, the more people are inclined to stick around. They are attracted to our authenticity and openness. It is fresh and alive. It works. When we stand tall to face the stark, screeching terror of abandonment, we create an opening to remember that divine love can provide the only rescue. It is from this...

Be Attached to Nothing

Be Attached to Nothing
Sep 25, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
He who binds to himself a joy, does the winged life destroy; He who kisses the joy as it flies, lives in eternity's sunrise. -- William Blake (Whyte, 1994, p. 194)



We have been conditioned to believe that if we let go, we will somehow be left, stripped down, naked, and alone. When we are in such a mindset, we have forgotten that nothing can really exist in and/or of itself, and so it is impossible to be alone. All of life is interdependent. To illustrate the point, imagine that you are walking through a grove of Aspen trees in the mountains of Colorado. You may see each tree as a free-standing entity. Ah, but you forget (or perhaps you never knew) that all...

Introducing Regality

Introducing Regality
Sep 18, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
A variation of this post appears at the very start of Chapter 7 in my book "Happily Ever After Right Now... Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!"

There's beauty in release... there's no one left to please." -- Sheryl Crow Image found here: http://junibearsjottings.blogspot.com/2012/01/taw-regal.html A person (King or Queen) who has trained themselves to be in a peaceful state chooses to stay in peace regardless of what is going on in their environment. For the sake of example, we'll talk about women (Queens). If a tree falls on her car, she experiences the upset and inconvenience -- and returns to peace. If she receives a new diamond necklace, she allows herself to delight in the gift without making it overly significant -- and returns to peace....

Giving Up Control

Giving Up Control
Sep 10, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
(Photo credit: Wikipedia)   As we become more and more willing to be completely transparent with who we are in all our relationships, the more freedom we have for unlimited growth. When speaking and living authentically without concern that someone is going to leave as soon as we reveal the truth, the more people are inclined to stick around. They are attracted to our courage. It is fresh and alive. It works. As we stand tall to face the stark terror that our conditioned fears of abandonment produce, we create an opening to remember that the love that lives in our own hearts is the only certain rescue. it is from such a foundation that we can move...

Waking Into Your Life

Waking Into Your Life
Sep 01, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
Talakona Waterfall, Chittoor (Photo credit: VinothChandar)

Waking Into Your Life (Overcoming Our Addiction to Love)

Below is an excerpt from my book, Happily Ever After Right Now… Stop Searching! Start Celebrating! It is taken from chapter 5: Power: Give Up Your Addiction to Love. This section is titled, Examining Your Fear and Waking Into Your Life.

When your entire identity is invested in shielding and protecting yourself from the indeterminate future, you remain behind the curve of your life. What would it take to drop everything that keeps you bound to the story of fear? Is it possible that, if you let go of all that you think you need to protect yourself from harm's way, that you might eventually emancipate yourself from...

Operating From a Foundation of Power

Operating From a Foundation of Power
Aug 25, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
(Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In the primal sense, which is still alive and well, man is all about the hunt and the chase. And woman is all about being saved. If her fears take her over the edge and cause her to do the hunting, the subject of her chase will most likely choose to retreat. Instinctively, he does not want to be caught, or to be responsible for saving anything. He wants to be free, and actually, so does she. By reverting to primitive methods for attaining that freedom, the idea of insufficiency, need, and dependency is re-enforced, perpetuating the drama of the Brute and Babe (our ancient ancestors).

It is time to end the pain/pleasure cycle that began centuries...

Step 6 in Overcoming Triggers: Surrender the Shame

Step 6 in Overcoming Triggers: Surrender the Shame
Aug 19, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
English: Surrender Moss near Wetshaw Bottom. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

If you've come this far with us, in our series, "Those Things that Trigger You are a Gift," you've learned how to first, recognize when you are triggered, and to stop before you speak out or act on it (step 1). You understand the importance of allowing yourself to feel whatever it is that you are feeling (step 2).  You've read that if you dig deep, you'll uncover whether or not there are some past hurts or issues that are causing you to want to react now (step 3).

We've discussed the importance of getting out of your story... and focusing on what's really happening; that the context of the...

Step 5 in Overcoming Triggers: Choose Happiness over Righteousness

Step 5 in Overcoming Triggers: Choose Happiness over Righteousness
Aug 13, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
By now you have probably realized that our series "Those Things That Trigger You are a Gift" is taken directly from my book Happily Ever After Right Now... Stop Searching! Start Celebrating!  I am thrilled to tell you about Step 5 for Modifying Your Responses. That's because it deals with an essential component to the pursuit of Happiness: CHOICE. Let's jump in. STEP 5: CHOOSE HAPPINESS INSTEAD OF RIGHTEOUSNESS: Ask yourself if you want to be happy or if you want to be right. (This idea originates from A Course in Miracles, Foundation for inner Peace, 1985). Give up the need to control outcomes. Most of us would rather to be right. This desire is directly linked to our survival instinct. And, being happy is not part...

Step 4 in Overcoming Triggers: Get Out of Your Story

Step 4 in Overcoming Triggers: Get Out of Your Story
Aug 05, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
We are moving along in our series “Those Things That Trigger You are a Gift”, and Level I for handling this new information: “Modify Your Responses!” I've shared a number of ways to untangle yourself from the inclination to react angrily or intensely. I am excited to share our next step with you, and hear how it impacts your progress!

STEP 4: FOCUS ON CONTEXT VS. CONTENT: Get Out of Your Story

Our feelings are triggered by thoughts, which, if left uncensored and unrestricted, are like the Sorcerer's apprentice. If we go too deeply into the story, our runaway thoughts can convince us of anything. He doesn't love me. He doesn't care. I am not good enough for him. Begin to notice these thoughts and then...

Step 3 in Overcoming Triggers: Dig Deep

Step 3 in Overcoming Triggers: Dig Deep
Jul 30, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
 

Denver (III) Tire Swing (Photo credit: roeyahram)

STEP THREE: DIG DEEP

Continuing in our series "Those Things That Trigger You are a Gift", and Level 1 for handling this new information: "Modify Your Responses,"  here are the first two steps we've covered, along with their links (in case you'd like to review or catch up): :

Step 1: Notice That You've Been Triggered. Stop Before You Speak or Act.

Step 2: Feel What You Are Feeling. Don't Resist.

The purpose of the first step, is to master the skill of NOTICING when you've been triggered, and to stop before you speak or act.  These are vital in the process of unwinding your reactive inclinations.  The second step is to allow yourself...

Step 2 in Overcoming Triggers: Allow Yourself to "Feel"

Step 2 in Overcoming Triggers: Allow Yourself to "Feel"
Jul 23, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
We've been covering the subject of emotional triggers, recognizing them and dealing with, or overcoming them. Triggers are those little situations or interactions with others that elicit negative or, to put it nicely, "passionate" reactions from us.   Once you've recognized a trigger, there are steps you can take to help unwind your reactive inclinations.  As we discussed last time, step one is to Stop Before You Speak or Act. We learned that by doing this, it not only allows us the opportunity to breathe and calm down, but to think rationally before we speak or act on a decision.

Feel Charm Image from: www.RobbieWilliams.com Step 2 (and an excerpt from my book "Happily Ever After Right Now... Stop Searching!...

Step 1 to Overcoming Triggers: Stop Before You Speak or Act

Step 1 to Overcoming Triggers: Stop Before You Speak or Act
Jul 17, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
Breathe (Photo credit: elycefeliz)

 

In the last Gem, I shared how it’s possible to view those things that trigger you as a gift or an opportunity.  It’s true. Once you realize what triggers you, you can begin to learn the art of stepping back, and taking a breath before you act. This “non action” is the first step to restoring balance and peace. Realize that 95% of the things that send you into the vapors are caused by some thought or memory that is lodged in your subconscious, which means you have no clue what is actually happening in that head of yours—just that a situation in the present has caused you discomfort. And that discomfort is...

Those Things That Trigger You Are a Gift

Those Things That Trigger You Are a Gift
Jun 26, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
(Photo credit: Hades2k)

 

The following is an excerpt taken from my book "Happily Ever After... Right Now," chapter six:

Seeing What Triggers You as a Gift

By facing ourselves and beginning to take a look at what is happening when a partner's behavior triggers a certain emotion within us, we can start to uncover all of our inner treasures. Ultimately what we are attempting to do is to end needless suffering in our lives. Right? And so, in order to accomplish that, we have to eliminate whatever is interrupting us from our happily ever after... right now. Of course, if we don't know what it is, it is impossible to stop it. Disturbance and dis-ease give us important clues. Admittedly,...

Choosing to be "Queen"

Choosing to be "Queen"
May 28, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
Queen Candace of the Ethiopians (Photo credit: principia aesthetica)

The following is an excerpt from Chapter 2 of my book, Happily Ever After Right Now, "Magnificence: Choosing to be Queen": As a psychotherapist, I have listened to hundreds of clients repeat the same story. They are either looking for the perfect relationship, or else they are in a relationship that has turned out to be less than perfect and want their partner to change. Need I mention that most of these clients are women? In every case, they have set aside their power and forgotten their innate sovereignty. Instead, they are looking outside, to the world or to someone else, to be their saving grace, the answer to...

Are You Longing for a Prince?

Are You Longing for a Prince?
May 16, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
English: ink and charcoal on paper (Photo credit: Wikipedia) "Every woman knows the longing that seems to keep happiness just out of reach. It flutters like a butterfly at the periphery of our consciousness when we listen, as children, to fairy tales and family stories about meeting Prince Charming and living happily ever after. It's the subtle backbeat of our teen years that drives our aching desire to be asked to the homecoming dance or prom. Will I be popular or pretty enough to snag a date -- to be chosen by someone -- anyone?

We have scanned for the Prince since we were old enough to download some of the messages in the Cinderella story (my personal...

Hardwired for Happiness with Luann Robinson Hull

Hardwired for Happiness with Luann Robinson Hull
May 05, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
Saturday, May 5, 2012 4:00pm Health and Wellness Expo Glenwood Springs High School 1521 Grand Ave Glenwood Springs, Colaralo 81601 www.healthandwellnessecpogws.com

Autumnal Equinox ~ On Balancing Happiness

Apr 29, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
originally posted on website October 13, 2011

Dear Friends,

It is only mid-October and already the snow has boldly announced itself in Colorado, tumbling through the clouds like flying saucers, these plate sized flakes have been falling for most of the day—in torrents. Tonight, the temperatures are predicted to plummet into the teens. The summer sun has exited the scene. And, once again, same as last year at this time, I am scratching my head. Why is it that I am I living in the upward regions of the Northern Hemisphere?

In Dan Buettner’s interesting book, Thrive, he shares his findings on the location of the world’s happiest regions, suggesting that countries near the Equator enjoying a “sun bonus” tend to be happier,...

Spring Clearing ~ Resurrecting Love, Peace and Hope

Apr 29, 2012 by Luann Robinson Hull
originally posted on website April 25, 2011

“There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer; no disease that enough love will not heal; no door that enough love will not open; no gulf that enough love will not bridge; no wall that enough love will not throw down; no sin that enough love will not redeem. It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble, how hopeless the outlook, how muddled the tangle, how great the mistake; a sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all. If only you could love enough you would be the happiest and most powerful being in the world”—Emmet Fox

Dear Friends,

Regardless of your political, religious, or spiritual persuasion, you may agree as you...